support system

Two Meatballs: What Would Carrie Bradshaw Do?!

You can feel it from a mile away but it’s ironically a TOTAL surprise.  The texts stop coming in as frequently…you’re not planning future dates anymore. You actually sweetly think that YOU are going to break up with HIM because you find yourself wanting more.  Then Saturday night rolls around and you get the 2014 equivalent of the Carrie Bradshaw Sex and the City post it note break up!

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A fucking break up text!!! Annnnnd you are mostly surprised by how much it stings after only three months

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but also relieved that its over because the distance and rejection over the last week  felt reallllllly shitty.  Being sober I have had oh so many revelations.  One of the biggest ones was how unknowingly unsupportive I was of my girlfriends during break ups!  I always had the mentality of why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with you.  I still feel like that, but I didn’t realize that all you want is for someone to make you feel better!  And I don’t know about you, but bashing him doesn’t make me feel better. I don’t need to turn this into anger to get pumped up to move on.  So to all my girlfriends and family members…my bad!!!! I really honestly just didn’t know.  I thought my logic and pointing out all the other persons short comings would make you feel better but it really just makes you feel worse. It feels strange at 31 to say that this is my first time being dumped!  #babysfirstheartbreak For the last decade I did anything I could to keep men at an arms length…only engaging in physical relationships. I was a drunk mess and I didn’t want to be judged or make myself vulnerable. So, when I decided to stop drinking I also decided to give a relationship a go…and I found out sooooo much.  I’m the living worst communicator!  Who knew the girl with the blog would suck so terribly at stating my own needs!  I realized that I love being in a relationship…after the first month of longing to be single bc its what I had known forever and what was comfortable.  I share my space well and I love really getting to know someone.  I love going on fun dates and doing nice things for someone I care about.  It was totally worth putting myself out there to learn how much I like being a part of something . So, I’m walking away with the knowledge that  I am totally capable of being emotionally intimate in a real grown up relationship, I could for sure work on communicating better, I can handle being broken up with with my self esteem in tact, especially when I know it’s the best thing and ultimately I have no regrets. #grown?!

 

Now, having said all of that…I can’t deny that this was really sad!!!! We never even talked about it…it just eneded…through technology!  But honestly I can’t think of a thing that would have made it better or less awkward.  Another thing that I have learned from being sober is that I am capable of feeling more emotions that just happiness and anger.  I am a very logical person when it comes to these situations.  I wanted more, he wanted less or more with someone else.  That can’t work.  My brain knows alllll of that but with no substance abuse coping mechanism

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…I spent some time on the phone with my sister and Katie bawling…saw my parents and cried some more #whoamI?!

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By the way I have the greatest people in my life ON EARTH!  I’m so thankful everyday.  The few people who knew really wanted to comfort me and I couldn’t thank them more! #theyknowmesowell

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And some time on my couch with my  tissues and favorite meatball were all necessary.  It was time to lick my wounds.  I love my little support system. But what’s next…

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“I couldn’t help but think…(did you see what I did there Nichole LuMaye!?)…What would Carrie Bradshaw do!? Retail Therapy!?

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Jenny came to my happy place last week…the beach!  So this week she took me to hers…the mall!!!

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You guys, retail therapy, especially with your best friend is a thing and it feels amazing.  First stop…MAC for a new fall lip!

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Then we went to H&M and Forever 21 and we both found so many fall looks!

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Then we went to Target for more clothes…and laughs #thankyuoforbeingafriendtraveleddowntheroadandbackagain #goldengirlssweatshirt #tootinycroptops #jennyisazombie

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Being with this girl makes me feel so much better!!!  We love trying on the ugliest stuff and who needs a dressing room am I right ladies!?!  But we did find some total gems.  But then what…comfort eat!?

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So, we had dinner at my favorite place…Coquette!  It was the most romantic dinner two little meatballs could ask for.  It was also one of our two monthly cheat nights….it was heaven!  Then we got a french silk blizzard from Dairy Queen #shame but it was the coldest little hug of yumminess!  But most of all  to feel better, I think Carrie would write about it…

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Writing down how you feel is such a cathartic thing…a total release.  Getting all of this out and then reading it back to yourself helps you process everything that happened and gives you such amazing perspective and peace.  I know that this has very little to do with paleo or workouts with a trainer but this is a little bump in my journey that I’m not going to let spiral out.  I have today to cry and then I’m moving on.  It was really hard to actually feel my feelings instead of turning to something else to make them go away.  It is ok to feel sad…but don’t wallow and know when to get out.

So in closing…a break up is sad but its also what is meant to be!  I’m choosing to walk away with fond memories and a better knowledge of what I want in the future.  Love you guys so much and thanks for the inspiration…turns out I’m a Carrie.

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Two Meatballs: So You Think Meatballs Can Dance, Dance , Dance…

Sooooooo…we have another big weigh in coming up…it’s 12 days until we hit the scales and Jenny and I both are STUCCCCKKK!  We both understand that this is part of the progress but some times you just need to talk it out…

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And who better to talk it through with than your meatball!?  Turns out we were both worried about the SAME thing (shocker)…what if we don’t lose any weight before the 1st!?

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We would probably be supes dupes sad…

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Then really angry that all of our hard work wasn’t paying off…

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So we talked it through and realized that not losing any weight would make for an extremely relatable post…everyone hits a wall on their path to wellness…

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We just have to stay positive and know that we have each other!!!  We know that you’ve heard this from us before but we just have to keep reminding ourselves that there are hiccups on this little baby.  So what should we do to get ourselves re-motivated and celebrate the great progress that we have already made?!?!

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Date night with out super best buddies…Kelly and Krista!!!

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And what shall we do!?  Well since Jenny and I have the most supportive group of people surrounding us we are going to my sister’s house for a paleo app night and watching the greatest show of all time….So You Think You Can Dance or SYTYCD as it goes with the Beard girls. This are our ballet poses…we used them to get pumped up for the night ahead!

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Who is this adorable!?!  Let’s see what Kelly has on the menu tonight!?!

Grilled Squash and Zuchinni…toss in olive oil, salt and pepper and grill for 20 minutes

Roasted okra (recipe on previous blog)

Meatballs (ohhhhh the irony) jalapeno and mango from CostCo

Sweet Potato Chips and Guacamole (recipe on previous blog)

Stuffed Jalapenos…She found this one on pinterest…its the one you stuff with pulsed cauliflower and wrap in bacon

 

Sounds amazing…time to cook!

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Food Safety tip (of her finger) (see what I did there) from Kelly on how to use a Mandolin and survive to tell the tale…

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Safety first dammmit!

While the food was cooking what better way to prepare yourself for the greatest dance competition show of all time than DANCING!!!! This totally counts as cardio right Sandra!?! Here is our dance genre retrospective…you’re welcome!

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May I have this dance?!

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Middle school slow dance…

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Ballet…

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Twerking…(so sweet of them to play our reindeer games)

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Old School…

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Hip Hop…

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Ballroom…

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Contemporary…

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The Jive or Disco…I’m not sure…

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Heyyyy…how did that get in there…we are clearly losing focus and getting sweaty!!!  Time for sup sup…

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yum yum yum yum yum yum yum yum yum yum….it was soooooo good!!!

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Meatball cheers…get it!?

What a great night!!!  Jenny and I are always looking for creative ways to be social without drinking and eating terribly!  This night included all paleo food, tons of cardio and my very favorite people on earth!  Who could ask for anything more.  Thanks Kelly and Krista…we love you!!! Now…on to the show!

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Time for the outtakes!!!

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We love y’all!!! Have the best day EVERRRRRRRRR!